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After watching “The Business of Being Born” and reading Birthing From Within, I was very interested in hiring a doula to assist with my birth – particularly one trained in massage, meditation, and aromatherapy.  They are supposed to be very helpful to women who desire natural births.  I mean, come on.  The idea of some “wise healer woman” attending my birth seemed totally appropriate for a person like me!   The only thing that was preventing us from seriously searching at the beginning of my pregnancy was the cost. I was aware of at least one Doula on the river, but their website did not list cost.  When a price is unlisted I usually assume the worst… We found a doula in Watertown but her fee and payment plan would not have worked with our summer budget either.  And let’s face it…  the baby is going to be born in the summer so we’ll need every penny we can pinch!

For awhile I gave up on the idea of a doula, but we talked to a few at a recent baby expo in Syracuse.  One said she could be more flexible with a payment plan, which was reassuring, but having to count on someone two hours away would stress me out.  The point of having a doula is that she is there to help you relax.  I feel that I’d constantly look at the clock and wonder where she was.  Yet the possibility, and my husband’s encouragement to ask about flexibility, was nice.

My friend Miss Corinne is also pregnant and was able to find a doula! Corinne likes her character and willingness to provide flexible payment plans so she recommended her to me.  Not only that, but she’s local!  My husband encouraged me to look into it.  Why not?   Unfortunately, this doula can’t commit to my due date which I completely understand.  Life happens and I can’t expect the world to stop turning just for my labor!

And so, I’m letting it go.

Honestly, I’m not terribly beat up about it.  I was a bit disappointed at first because it seemed nearly possible, but in the end it feels that the universe was trying to tell me not to worry so much.  And my saying that is not to denigrate anyone hiring a doula!  I believe in doulas, support all women who want one present, and would love to try that route again if I have another child.  The biggest reason I wanted to hire a doula has been because of the reality that my midwife might not be there.  She was very honest about that; things happen, people get ill, etc.  She has made it equally clear that she doesn’t like missing her patient’s labors but that, sometimes, it happens.  Naturally, that worries me – that there won’t be another midwife on call that night and I’ll be stuck with a doctor who just wants to go home and push the drugs on me to get it over with.  It’s just that, I guess, I need to find the strength within.  I need to have faith in my own resolve and, yes, stubbornness.  I need to have faith in my body and in my Kindreds.

And the doula situation is just another reminder that, in addition, I need to be flexible and accept that things don’t always go the way I want or plan.  So it’s not that I am now over having a doula; it’s simply that the universe needs me to learn a different lesson this time and I need to be open to that.

I also need to have faith in my husband.  Weretoad might not always be the most lovey-dovey person in the world, but he is very supportive and sensitive when it counts.  When I had my wisdom teeth out, for example, he cared for me the way I thought only a parent would.  He set up timers and brought me my medicine exactly when I needed.  He spoke soft reassuring words.  He tucked me in.  He brought me water and food.  He helped me walk when I felt dizzy and nauseous.  He replaced bloody gauze for me.  He cleaned my drug-induced vomit from our patio.  Helped me to the bathroom.  You know you’ve found love when your partner helps you through the most embarrassing situations and yet loves you all the same.  Weretoad occasionally irritates me when he plays one too many video games or looks at forums for ten minutes after I ask him to rub my feet, but he always delivers, and I know that, in serious situations like childbirth, he will be by my side with those soft reassuring words and strong hands that I love so much.  My husband will be my doula, or close enough, this time around*.

And if a situation keeps my midwife away?  I’ll have Brighid, the midwife.

* And he totally took a reiki class with me (despite his skepticism) specifically to learn another technique to calm and comfort.

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A plaque I purchased from an artisan at the last CNY Pagan Pride Day. Although normally seen as a Greenman motif, this plaque was done in blue which automatically made me think of Manannán mac Lir. This plaque now hangs above my altar. Photo by Grey Catsidhe, 2013.

The ADF discussion group on FB was recentlly abuzz with a discussion on the gatekeeper concept within our liturgy.  It’s a hot topic for some – whether it should be required in ADF liturgy, whether or not it’s an Indo-European concept, etc, etc, etc…  I’ve been working on Liturgy 1, part of my Initiate training in ADF, so between that and the FB discussion, I couldn’t help but reflect on the gatekeeper and what it means to me and my rituals.

For those of you who are unfamiliar with this concept, Isaac Bonewits briefly describes gatekeepers in his book Neopagan Rites: A Guide to Creating Public Rituals That Work:

The creation of a ritual center is often symbolized in Paleo-, Meso-, and Neopagan ceremonies as opening the Gates Between the Worlds.  This is usually accomplished by calling upon a particular spirit who is a gatekeeper, and who is easy to contact, since he/she is usually halfway into this world already.  The gatekeeper is then asked to open the gates, which she/he usually does with little fuss (32).

Pagans may envision this gatekeeper differently depending on the purpose/desires for the ritual, one’s personal or grove hearth culture, and one’s tradition.  Wiccans, for example, often call spirits in the four directions, be they elementals, guardians of watchtowers, or even angels.  Though I’ve never heard them referred to as such in Wiccan circles, these spirits are gatekeepers (32).  In ADF Druidic rites, many will call on messenger spirits or even psychopomps.  The wonderful thing coming out of the online discussions seems to be that the gatekeeper concept does not have to be set in stone.  Some suggest thinking of the gatekeeper is a guardian during our rites.  Others see him or her as a facilitator – a spirit who can help you access the Otherworlds, but does not automatically assume that we can’t do it on our own.

Personally, I work with Manannán mac Lir, Irish God of the sea, lord of magic, and arguably an excellent gatekeeper!  Muin Mound Grove often calls to Manannán as well, and that’s where I first started to make my acquaintance with him.  Personal study and experience has lead me to develop a relationship with him as a gatekeeper deity and, now, a patron to my Druidic studies.  His association with water connects him with the Otherworld, and yet many stories show him interacting with humans such as Cuchulainn and Bran.  One of my favorite stories features Cormac Mac Airt whom Manannán actually transports to the Otherworld, usually with the aid of a silver wand that tinkles like bells.

In my personal rites, I usually don’t call to Manannán as a gatekeeper unless I am doing some serious magical workings.  I was intrigued and yet not surprised to learn that others in ADF view the gatekeeper as a guardian – and indeed that’s how I consider him.  My usual devotionals are very basic; they involve grounding and centering, prayers of thanks, and offerings.  As they are done at my altar, a place I’ve been working at for years now, I feel that it’s sufficiently warded from most negativity.  When I need to do something other than basic devotionals or prayers, I then acknowledge the Outsiders, the powers of chaos, and ask them to leave me in peace.  In case asking nicely isn’t enough, I call the gatekeeper, Manannán, and ask that he aid me in my rite – no only in the magic I’m working, but in warding it from any chaos and negativity.  I occasionally use a bell wand I made through inspiration of the Cormac story.  I will ring it and walk a circle while chanting “Let the gates be open!”

I’ve taken my ideas about Manannán as a guardian to my protogrove.  I had been leading rituals in the same way I was taught – using physical gestures and asking Manannán to help me open the gates.  I began to sense a bit of a disconnect between the actions and the ritual participants.  Many are new to Druidism, so that has been part of it, and I was struggling with how to help everyone better experience the gates.  I wanted it to be understood and meaningful – else why bother? For our Spring Equinox ritual, I decided to approach the opening and closing of the gates as part of the Two Powers meditation.  I lead everyone through the usual meditation and then, inspired by Ian Corrigan’s work in the Nine Moons material, I asked that everyone view the water and fire combine into mist that enveloped us.  Out of the mist came a wizened, wizard of a man - Manannán mac Lir!  He stood as guardian of the Otherworld but also was there to facilitate the magic of envisioning the fire and well as gates opening and closing.

Everyone reported that this was very successful and they definitely felt an inner transition.  I’m very excited by this development and intend to experiment with it further as our concept of the gatekeeper evolves.  Some other ADFers are suggesting that Brighid would make a very appropriate gatekeeper given her association with fire and water and I find myself agreeing!  I feel pulled to join in this experimentation as well since Brighid is my patroness, but I do not want to end my growing relationship with Manannán either.  Perhaps I will approach Brighid that way during my flame keeping rites and see what happens.  Those times, I usually do not call to a gatekeeper.  They are very informal and hearth-centered – but we shall see!  Perhaps in looking to Brighid as not only guardian of my home, but as a facilitator to greater spiritual awareness, I will grow.

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Before I get into pregnancy and childbirth lore from old Ireland and Scotland, please note that I don’t necessarily embrace or endorse these beliefs.  As a modern Druid, I seek to know how my ancestors – Pagan and Christian – lived before things became very industrialized and modern.  While some folk practices are seemingly out-of-touch or misinformed, they are, at the very least, helpful in understanding our ancestors’ way of thinking which can help us to understand other practices.  At the same time, some folk practices remain very valid – if not medically, then at least spiritually.  Just as many other Neo-Druids and Celtic Reconstructionists, I only revive what I feel makes the most sense to my modern brain, or to inform possible experimentation with new practices and interventions like  the medicine of today.  Family or friends who are not practicing animists and/or polytheists may find the information in this post alarming, but rest assured that, while I live a magical life, I do so as a modern woman who thinks and acts as she feels best, and who doesn’t simply adopt a practice just because it’s old and esoteric.

Awhile ago, I shared a link  to Woden’s Wandering Witch  in which the author examines some Irish lore relating to pregnancy.  It is definitely a good read, but it left me wanting more. Surely there must be more!  Oh, but it’s difficult to dig up anything on this subject!  Part of the difficulty is that much of what we do know relates to fosterage, the common practice in Ireland where children are placed in the care of others to form familiar and/or political bonds, and good birth mothers were able to arrange this whereas bad mothers were not  (Bitel, 88).  Because the law texts were more interested in this, as well as defining the various types of marriage, we have little information about the birthmother and the childbirth process.  Therefore, we must make inferences based on the lore and rely on modern ethnographic research that took place when Christianity was in place.  Most historical books I own on the ancient Celts deal with other themes.  Some have a chapter about women, but spend most of it examining those famous examples we know from history and mythology - Queen Medb, Boudica, Brighid the Goddess, St. Brigit, Macha…  It’s difficult to find a lot of information on the every day woman or what her life was like.  The aforementioned exceptional examples of womanhood are all very well and good.  As a woman who aspires to be knowledgeable, courageous, and spiritual, of course I admire them!  Of the bunch, researching Brighid or her saintly counterpart is the most helpful in understanding the ancient Irish and Scottish concepts of pregnancy, birth, and motherhood given that she has been prayed to by women seeking help in labor (Freeman, 50) or infertility (Ó Duinn, 157).  She is often considered a mother, or foster mother, to Ireland (Bitel, 100). There are also stories about the saint acting as a midwife or wet nurse to Jesus Christ (Hutton, 135).  And let’s not forget her association with milk – although this remains a contentious subject among Celtic linguists, her festival’s name, “Imbolc” may to refer to the lactation of sheep and thus new mothers in the animal world (Hutton, 134).  There is evidence that Brighid, Goddess or Saint (a matter of perspective, often blurred seeming) was prayed to by laboring mothers, and midwives often invited Brighid to enter a home once a woman went into labor (Freeman, 55).  Prayers in Alexander Carmichael’s Carmina Gadelica capture some examples from Scotland, such as “Bride the aid-woman:”

There came to me assistance,

Mary fair and Bride;

As Anna bore Mary,

As Mary bore Christ,

As Eile bore John the Baptist

Without flaw in him,

Aid thou me in mine unbearing,

Aid me, O Bride!

As Christ was conceived of Mary

Full perfect on every hand,

Assist thou me, foster-mother,

The conception to bring from the bone;

And as thou didst aid the Virgin of joy,

Without gold, without corn, without kine,

Aid thou me, great is my sickness, 

Aid me, O Bride! (71)

Carmina Gadelica actually contains a whole section on “Birth and Baptism.”  It is full of rituals, many Christainized, but the original meaning is still there.  Most are to protect the new baby from aggressive fairies.  The author observes, “When a child was born it was handed to and fro across the fire three times, some words being addressed in an almost inaudible murmur to the fire-god.  It was then carried three times sunwise around the fire, some words being murmured to the sun-god” (189).  He continues to discuss the use of water in this first rite of passage; “The first water in which the child is washed after it is born into the world, the bathing-woman puts a gold piece or a coin of silver into the vessel of water in which the child is being washed” which is supposedly done to bring the child “love of peace…love of means…love of wealth…love of joyousness by day and night…grace of goodness…grace of fortune…[and] grace of victory on every field” (189).  This old custom was followed by a baisteadh ban-ghlùin or “knee-woman’s baptism” which occurred shortly after birth, in the name of the Christian God, to protect the child’s soul (189), for it was believed that unbaptized children were not allowed into heaven.   Carmichael explains they were believed to have a spirit but not a soul –  a distinction that warranted separate burial grounds in the more remote and rocky lands beyond a church’s borders.  These graves were unmarked and called torran which meant “little mound” (190).  Morbidly interesting is the fact that people who committed suicides or murders were also placed in these burial lands (190).  Returning to the little baptism prayers, a favorite of mine is “A small drop of water,” which I think could be easily Paganized for a Druidic ceremony utilizing the Three Kindreds, the Three Realms, and the Three Hallows:

A small drop of water

To thy forehead, beloved,

Meet for Father, Son, and Spirit,

The Triune of Power.

A small drop of water

To encompass my beloved,

Meet for Father, Son, and Spirit,

The Triune of power.

A small drop of water

to fill thee with each grace,

Meet for Father, Son and Spirit

The Triune of power (221).

These prayers suggest a deep fear of Otherworldly influence when it comes to infants.  It is the same conclusion Woden’s Wandering Witch reached : many birth and pregnancy customs in Celtic lands are to protect the child.  According to Walter Gregor, author of The Folklore of the North-East of Scotland, the fairy folk had a craving for mothers’ milk and also stole human babies to pay off debts to Hell (4).  Now of course this is very Christianized, but as with many other later customs among Celtic nations, they have an essence of earlier times.  Different rituals kept the fairies away, including blessing the mother and child with bread, milk, a fir-scented candle, and a Bible.  These were placed under the mother’s pillow, or at a distance.  Gregor explains that, “A pair of trowsers hung at the foot of the bed had the same effect” (4) for some reason.  Once a woman had given birth, she was not permitted to do any work other than the most “simple” and “necessary,” and she wasn’t allowed to travel or visit with other households home to pregnant women (6).  

Similar traditions of restrictions and protection against fairies existed in Ireland.  Pregnant women were warned against attending funerals, sitting up with a corpse, or visiting graveyards due to the sensitive spiritual state of her growing baby (Franklin, 60-61).  William Butler Yeats explains the danger of fairies in his work, Fairy and Folk Tales of the Irish Peasantry.  He describes the dreaded changelings, sick fairy children, “or a log of wood so bewitched that it seems to be a mortal pining away, and dying” (47). One way to get rid of a changeling, or to test if it was one, was to burn it on the hearth fire (47)!  This is a wretched practice when you consider the modern medical opinion that changelings were really children with disabilities!  Thankfully, Yeats explains that some changelings were exchanged peacefully once a mother realized what was going on (47).  One way of protecting infants, that is particularly interesting to this tree-hugging Druid, involves tree branches.  Apparently “a bundle of oak, ash, and thorn” should be placed in the nursery to protect babies from dangerous spirits (Franklin, 151).  Alternatively, a branch of mountain ash (rowan) tied over the cradle will protect a female infant, while alder protects males (151).  I’m imagining a very earthy mobile with a rowan or alder base…

The way mothers interacted with their babies and others was also significant.  People who complimented babies out loud were said to put them in danger, so it was suggested that mothers say “God bless” or “safe be it,” after such praise (Franklin, 149).  In her book, Visions and Beliefs in the West of Ireland, Lady Augusta Gregory explains that pregnant women should not visit another household with a woman in labor for the labor pains may jump to her prematurely.  This suggests that our ancestors understood the danger of early labor, at least.

Speaking of labor, it was believed that ashes or coal should not be removed from household fires once the pregnant woman who lives there begins her contractions (Franklin, 84).  Locks were unlocked (Gregor, 4), which was surely sympathetic magic to help encourage the woman’s cervix to open.  Today, an expectant mother in a birth center or a hospital, rather than her home, may utilize similar symbolism by having open flowers by her bed.  If you give birth at home, many suggest redoing anything unlocked or untied once the baby is born or else negative forces may find places to hide before stealing the baby (Franklin, 85).

Modern Druids and Celtic revivalists may want to incorporate some of the above traditions into their own childbirth experience.  As noted, many of the prayers to Mary or St. Brigit can be easily Paganized.  For some examples, see the chapter “Naming and Saining the Baby” in Skip Ellison’s book The Wheel of the Year at Muin Mound Grove, ADF: A Cycle of Druid Rituals.  Protective charms, inspired by folklore or modern inspiration, may be placed around the laboring mother or the newborn.  Just remember not to forget the pragmatic concerns of having a newborn!  If you make a mobile with sacred wood or charms, be sure to hang it securely out of reach from baby!  Most modern folk don’t fear changelings or fairies spiriting babies away; rather our new demons are suffocation, SIDS, and other horrible afflictions.  Malevolent forces at work, medical complications, or a combination – whatever you believe, parents must be vigilant and mindful about what is in and around the crib.  Beliefs that women out of labor should limit their work and travel ring true today – we ladies still need to recover!  With regards to a special “baptism” or blessing for baby, mother and father may want to prepare a little prayer to say over the child when they have some privacy after birth.  A vial of sacred water may be packed away in the mother’s suitcase for just such a ritual.  However, don’t let this eclipse an even more important ritual – mother bonding and, if possible, breastfeeding the little one.   Later, when the new family feels ready, the baby can be officially welcomed into the larger family, grove, and community in a special naming ritual.

Bitel, Lisa M.  Land of Women: Tales of Sex and Gender from Early Ireland.  Cornell University Press, Ithaca, NY.  1996.
Carmichael, Alexander.  Carmina Gadelica.  Edited by C J Moore.  Lindisfarne Press,  Hudson, NY.  1997.
Franklin, Rosalind.  Baby Lore – Superstitions and Old Wives Tales From the World Over Related to Pregnancy, Birth and Motherhood.  Diggory Press, 2006.
Freeman, Mara.  Kindling the Celtic Spirit.  Harper Collins Publishers, Inc,  New York, NY.  2001.
Gregory, Lady Augusta.  Visions and Beliefs in the West of Ireland.  1920.  Web < http://www.sacred-texts.com/neu/celt/vbwi/index.htm >
Gregor, Walter.  The Folklore of the North-East of Scotland.  1881.  Web < http://www.sacred-texts.com/neu/celt/nes/index.htm >
Hutton, Ronald.  The Stations of the Sun: A History of the Ritual Year in Britain.  Oxford University Press, Inc,  New York, NY.  2001.
Ó Duinn, Seán.  The Rites of Brigid Goddess and Saint.  The Columba Press, Blackrock, Co Dublin.  2005.
Yeats, William Butler.  Fairy and Folk Tales of the Irish Peasantry.  1888.  Web < http://www.sacred-texts.com/neu/yeats/fip/index.htm >

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A photo of our Imbolc altar by Weretoad, 2013.

Northern Rivers Protogrove, ADF | Bringing the Ár nDraíocht Féin tradition to Northern NY.

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My Imbolc altar this year.  Included are the felted sheep I made, the pouch I keep my brat in, that motherhood statue from my mum, my drop spindle, the lavender Brighid cross, a collage ATC featuring Brighid from a fellow ADF artisan, and two new beeswax candles and candlesticks from my mum.  And of course, the new table cloth I finished the other day!  Photo by Grey Catsidhe, 2013.

I want to wish each of my readers a very wonderful Imbolc.  It’s certainly a special day for me this year.  I work with Brighid regularly, and she is an important part of my life.  What’s more, given her association with motherhood and midwifery, I am feeling particularly sensitive to her energy and invitation to look for new growth.  Not only is the sun increasing in strength each day; not only are some of the trees forming buds; not only are bulbs showing up in the gardening section of stores – my belly grows round with life!  Further more, not only is my family feeling some of Brighid’s magic, but The North Country Druidic Study Group has also been blessed – only we’re no longer going by that name!  As of today, we’re officially a protogrove in ADF!  We are now Northern Rivers Protogrove!  Everyone involved is so excited!  And what spectacular timing!  As long as the lake effect snow that threatens doesn’t force us to change our plans, we’ll be gathering to honor and celebrate Brighid’s feast.  You can bet it’s going to be quite a feast with the news!

Our traditional Imbolc meal.  Photo by Grey Catsidhe, 2013.

At home tonight, hubby and I celebrated with a hearty dinner – my traditional Imbolc meal of colcannon, peas, and veggie crepes!  This, combined with a full week of work, seemed to knock Weretoad right out.  He’s been napping ever since!  I’ve spent my evening quietly admiring Brighid’s candle, preparing offerings for the ritual tomorrow, and excitedly updating the Northern Rivers website to reflect our new name and status.

However you celebrate, I hope Brighid’s feast day is a blessed one for you!  May you find warmth, inspiration, creativity, and healing.

Brighid’s flame.  Photo by Grey Catsidhe, 2013.

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Lá Fhéile Bríde is upon us and I have been busily cleaning as best as I can, trying to make my home welcoming to Brighid.  I recently accomplished one of my biggest cleaning goals  - moving my altar back into the so-called “Art Room.”  I’ve said this before, but I preferred when it was in there rather than my bedroom.  I feel I have more privacy before bed, which is when I prefer to do my devotionals.  I can calmly go about my spiritual business without worrying that my husband, who rises for work earlier than I and needs to be in bed sooner, is getting impatient or that my candle light is keeping him up.  My altar feels more at home where I do a lot of sewing, where I start seeds, and where herbs grow.  Besides, it’s previous location – a corner in the master bedroom – is the perfect spot for a nursery!  More on that another day.

For now, enjoy the images of my main altar, my bookshelf and Ancestral altar, and my little indoor Nature Spirit altar.

 

My main altar.  You can see my representation of the tree, a cauldron with a candle in it for the fire, and a glass bowl for the well.  I have various representations of my patrons on my altar, as well as other significant items like an offering bowl and my oak wand.  Above is a representation of the sun and a little plaque of Manannán mac Lir.  Photo by Grey Catsidhe, 2013.
My bookshelf full of texts, divination tools, oils and other concoctions, and my ancestral altar – both on the top shelf and the wall with the photos.  Below the photos on the wall is a stand for things I use during ritual but I don’t want on my altar – matches, bowls with offerings to give, etc.  Below that are some of my drums.  Photo by Grey Catsidhe, 2013.
Since most of my work with the Nature Spirits involves the plants I have indoors or actually going outside, I only have a small altar for them indoors.  It’s mostly comprised of found objects (stones, bones, butterfly wings), representations of nature that I’ve acquired, or things significant to my spirit guide.  Some of my Druidic charms hang from the pegs.  Photo by Grey Catsidhe, 2013.

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Cros Bríde of lavender and needled felted sheep on my seasonal altar.  Photo and pieces by Grey Catsidhe, 2013.

I was feeling very inspired today, both by a project I had been meaning to try and discussion of Brighid crosses on a FB group for local Pagans.

A needle felted sheep.  Photo and piece by Grey Catsidhe, 2013.

When I started to brainstorm how to decorate my seasonal altar, a needle felted sheep immediately came to mind.  Felting has become a little hobby of mine.  I don’t do it as often as I sew or crochet/knit, but I do enjoy playing with my wool roving.  I love how very free-form the art can be.  This seemed like a fun project to take on.  I don’t think it’s too bad for my first.  It fits well on an Imbolc altar because of Brighid’s association with sheep and household crafts.

Lavender Brighid Cross.  Piece and photo by Grey Catsidhe, 2013.

I’ve been thinking about what to use for Brighid crosses this year.  In Muin Mound, we always used wheat.  Well, I don’t know any wheat farmers.  I’ve thought about gathering old grass from the hedge, but then I recalled the lavender I have.  Having been dried, it was too brittle to use without a good soak in warm water for 20-30 minutes.  Then it was very pliable and made my work station smell divine!  It felt meditative to make it.  My skill at making the crosses isn’t as good as others, but this is the best one I’ve made yet!  I’m still not 100% sure what to do with the Druid Study Group.  Soaking dried grasses or herbs seems a very messy process in a place we don’t own.  Pipe cleaners were suggested, but now I’m leaning towards raffia as it’s more natural.  We shall see!

May the inspiration of Brighid herself flow into you as you prepare for her feast day!

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An offering of spicy tea for Brighid in lieu of incense.  Photo by Grey Catsidhe 2012.

Alcohol, caffeine, sushi, unpasteurized cheese…  Just a few things pregnant women are told to avoid or limit.  Changing your lifestyle is part of expecting.  I already find it’s impacting my spiritual practices, but not in a way that is terribly annoying or negative.

One such change has been incense.  Upon learning of my pregnancy, I started to look into it out of curiosity.  There’s smoke involved, and everyone knows pregnant women shouldn’t be smoking. There are some studies floating around about the negative correlations between incense smoke and health problems, including cancer.  People who burn it every day in an unventilated space should be especially concerned.  Incense, like some other burning matter, releases polycyclic aromatic hydrocarbons, a pollutant.  Some studies link exposure to these during pregnancy to possible behavioral problems.

I used to burn incense a few times each week as offerings, so that probably puts me somewhere between a casual and heavy incense user.  I’ve sometimes thought about the smoke, especially as the weather cools and our windows close.  Although there is arguably room for more studies on the impact of incense on health and, in particular, pregnancy, I don’t feel like taking any chances.  The only time I currently feel comfortable with it is during outside ritual.

Earlier this year, I explored tea as an alternative to incense.  Just as with the fragrant sticks and cones, herbs are combined with heat.  The scent wafts upward with the steam.  Utilizing fire and water seems particularly magical, although it’s admittedly not as potent as incense.  Don’t expect it to mask pet odors.

If your desire is to create a fragrant smelling atmosphere, a trick my mum taught me may please you – especially during the colder months.  Before visitors come, my mum likes to bake an apple (cut in half) covered with some cinnamon.  She bakes it in the oven for 15-20 minutes on a low setting – until the apple becomes soft.  The scent is strong and far more pleasant than any artificially scented candle!  In the spring and summer, why not opt for locally grown flowers placed on a central altar?

Oil diffusers could be another possibility, but pregnant women must be so careful about which oils they handle.  Several sites I’ve looked at all suggest that lavender is safe.  Given it’s calming properties, it seems like a good choice for those expecting.  I’m especially drawn to simple terra cotta ornaments that don’t require any flame. (Check out this adorable diffuser pendant from napotterystudio on Etsy!  Perfect for a Brighid shrine!)   Should you decide to try a candle diffuser, definitely choose to use organic soy or beeswax candles as paraffin wax has shown to be more dangerous.

I definitely intend to keep digging into this matter as it’s one that is close to many Pagans.  We (generally) love to make offerings, use candles, and burn incense.  Yet, as a mother-to-be, I want to err on the side of caution.  Wouldn’t you?

Please share your ideas or any information you find!

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A huge thanks to Woden’s Wandering Witch for the amazing resources on pregnancy lore in Norse and Irish cultures.

I really related to her Irish post, where she states that she is avoiding intense spiritual work because of the general belief that unborn babies are very vulnerable to such forces.  I did one trance working shortly after finding out I was pregnant.  It was part of a drum circle and was very powerful and moving.  My spirit guide carried me to a circle of women – my ancestral mothers – who were dancing in a circle.  Brighid danced with them over the fire they spun around.  I joined them as a mother and a future ancestor.  It was very moving and affirming – but I haven’t felt the need to do any more.  I’ve done some shallow meditations just to calm myself.  I pray.  I do divination. I make offerings.  Otherwise, I rest.

I am definitely going to be on the lookout for more pregnancy and childbirth lore.

 

 

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Mama to Be

Some of you may have noticed a certain vagueness to my recent posts.  A few of you have sent me private messages to ask after my health.  Weretoad thinks I’m being fairly obvious anyway and that I might as well just come out and say it: I’m pregnant!

Two Lines!

We found out a few weeks ago and we’re quite excited. To be honest, I was starting to worry I might not be able to conceive naturally, but then -poof! – surprise!  I feel very blessed by the Kindreds and thank Brighid each day.  We’ve been to the midwife, started a series of tests, picked out names…  One of the handful of reasons I haven’t said anything is because I want to make sure everything’s okay before I pour my heart out.  That said, it’s very difficult holding back when this is such a huge part of my life.  I don’t intend to gush about it in each post, and I certainly don’t intend to share any personal information about my baby on this blog, but I do want to be free to post about the impact this has on my spirituality.

A few people knew already: my immediate family and a handful of friends who I either saw in person over the Thanksgiving holiday or guessed online.  Ideally, I would have gathered all of my loved ones together and announced it in person at a party.  Alas, we all live so far apart and our schedules don’t easily align.  Thus it falls on the internet and social networking!

So there you have it.  It feels good to make it official!

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